Most of us spend so much of our lives plagued by our insecurities, failures, negative behaviors and addictions. If all we focus on is the negative, it will be hard to accomplish everything we are meant to do in this world. If we spent half our energy focusing on what’s good within us instead of what’s wrong, we would see a much more realistic picture of ourselves enabling us to conquer so much more.
The key to living closer to your potential both in your performance domain and outside of it lies in developing your ability to carry a positive perspective and to view things in a constructive way.
Whenever an important performance or event is about to occur in your life, thoughts run through your head about probable consequences of the event. You say certain things to yourself or believe certain things about what might happen and how will that make you feel. These thoughts make you worry or free you from worry, make you feel confident or shatter your confidence.
The one thing over which you have absolute control is your own thoughts. It is this that puts you in a position to control your own destiny.
What triggers your emotional reaction to an event is the way you perceive the event, or what you say to yourself in relation to it, rather than the event itself. I raced in South Carolina (a 10K) a week ago. Before I left Phoenix I was telling myself how I was going to race fast since I finally had my body back (I had been sick with pneumonia the previous month and race I did). I was thinking that now my mind was going to be able to focus on pushing through discomfort instead of having to work hard trying to block the pain from being sick away. I had a good race despite starting way too slow. My first 3.1 miles were at a 5:50 pace and my last 3 at 5:40. Fast forward one week. I had a 4×2 mile workout this week were I had to hold 5:40 pace for the 2 miles in a row. Before I started the workout on Wednesday I was thinking how I haven’t done any track or tempo workouts where I have gone 5:40’s in the past month (since I got sick). I started the workout and I saw my pace was 5:42 for the first mile. Right away I thought about how I haven’t run like that in my workouts and I felt threatened about not being able to hold the pace so I slowed down. My second mile was really slow in comparison to the first one and I ended up running an average of 5:50/mile for that set. What happened? I have been training consistently for months now and I am physically better prepared now than when I raced in SC, however my mind was thinking very differently. In SC I was eager to race and to focus on getting out of my comfort zone, here I was worried about not being able to keep the pace.
A simple change in your perspective about the meaning of a particular event, or in your belief about your capacity to approach it or to cope with it positively, can change your current emotional reality and the outcome. Nothing changes except the way you perceive yourself or the event, and yet that simple positive change can give you inner strength and confidence, release you from stress, and free you to live or perform more joyfully.
In order to approach your event physically ready and mentally focused, here are some steps that can help you:
1 Trust your training
You have done the job and whether it could have been done better or not, race day is not the time to question it. Focus on what you did well and leave what you could have improved for after the race is over. Set realistic PERFOMANCE goals (goals you can control like your breathing, focusing on a mantra, or holding back on your first mile) and forget your outcome goals at home (the overall time or place you want to get).
2 Change perspectives
Question your own thoughts, the ones that upset you that is. The next time you feel anxious, stop and ask yourself Why am I anxious? What am I thinking or saying about the event/race, about myself, about my performance or about people’s reaction that is making me anxious? Do I have to see it this way? Do I have to get upset over this? Is it really worth continuing to worry about this?
Going back to your goal, setting a personal goal to think less in ways that are likely to worry you and more in ways that will uplift you and others. Remind yourself of your strengths and of positive events in your past. You are fully capable of achieving your goals and changing your perspective if you constantly remind yourself to think and act in more positive ways.
Visualize yourself beforehand on the day of your race. Imagine yourself starting to get anxious or worried about how it will go and then see yourself being assertive and reacting in a positive way to this anxiety. I generally carry with me a “coping card”.It’s a simple note card where I write down positive reminders for when I start thinking in a negative way. Before I race I pull my card out and I read it to myself as a way to remember why I run and to put things in perspective. My card has the following statements on it but you can write some that have meaning for you: “I run because it’s fun” “My family loves me regardless of how I perform” “I have run 70 miles per week for several weeks, I woke up when I was tired and went running regardless. I can do this” “My mind controls my body and my mind is unlimited” “This is a fantastic opportunity to see how fast I can go”
4 Be Aware
I watch my thoughts all the time. That’s the only way to be aware of what you are telling yourself. We are always thinking and we have the ability to choose what we think and to change what we are focusing on. Be aware of self imposed obstacles such as things you say to yourself that block your own progress.
Sometimes reinterpreting your physical sensations is enough to put you back in control. Let’s set that you get a knot in your stomach or your heart starts to thump hard just before a performance begins. You could say to yourself “Oh man, I am nervous… I don’t know what I am going to do… I’ll probably blow it” or you could interpret these physical signs in a totally positive manner and say “The feeling in my stomach is the result of the secretion of adrenaline, which acts as a stimulant; what is actually happening is that my body is telling me that I am ready. Let’s go!”
6 Control the controllables
Many important elements of your life, such as your performance and your perspective, are potentially within your control. Once you realize that you can effect positive change in these areas you will, precisely because they are within your control. However, other important things in life are beyond your control. You cannot control things that are impossible to control, no matter how hard you try or how much responsibility you assume for doing so. You cannot control the past, you cannot control the actions, reactions of other people, you cannot control the weather or the way a race is set (unless you are the race director). You cannot control your place in the race and sometimes not even your finishing time. You cannot control what you could have done. You and your goals are best served when you focus on things within your potential control.
7 Try positive self-suggestions
These positive self-suggestions can help you in your balanced pursuit of personal excellence:
-I am in control of my own thinking, my own focus, my own life
-I am a good, valued person in my own right
-I control my own thoughts and emotions, and direct the whole pattern of my performance, health and life
-I am fully capable of achieving the goals that I set for myself today. They are within my control
-I control the step in front of me
-I learn from setbacks, and through them I see room for improvement and opportunities for personal growth
-I embrace the lessons from my experiences
-My powerful mind and body are one, I free them to excel
-Every day in some way I am better, wiser, more adaptable, more focused, more in control
-I choose to live my life fully
-I choose to excel
And remember, virtually every performer you have ever seen or competed against, including all the best athletes in the world experience this rush of excitement before an important event. It shows that you care and want to do well. You can make it work for you by recognizing its positive elements and by channeling your focus into your performance.
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